What Would John Stossel Say (WWJS)?

Are you a chronic worrier? Are you afraid of the bogeyman around the corner? Do you worry about bad things that could possibly happen? Do people call you a worry wart? If so help is on the way. You need to get familiar with the work of journalist and co-anchor of the ABC News show 20/20, John Stossel. He has aired numerous shows on the folly of being worried, scared or afraid over things which you have little or no control. His most recent was “Scared Stiff: Worry in America”. You can check out his website, John Stossel, and this article, The Fear Industrial Complex. I propose that one way to lower the stress of your chronic worrying is to consider, at the start of any worrisome thoughts, What Would John Say (WWJS)? For example:

  • On a flight you feel – “This plane has something wrong with it and is going to crash and burst into flames…there will be no survivors.”
  • What Would John (Stossel) Say (WWJS) – “Relax and enjoy the ride. The odds of this plane crashing are about the same as you being hit in the crotch by lightening 10,000 times in a row.”
  • After hearing stories about e-coli outbreaks at fast food restaurants you emote – “I’m never going to eat out again.”
  • WWJS – “Eating out at restaurants is extremely safe. You have a greater chance of having a three-way with Brad and Angolina than of getting e-coli from eating at a restaurant.”
  • After seeing a picture of a missing kid on a milk carton you think – “I’m going to look into have an electronic tracking chip implanted in my child so I can track when she gets abducted.”
  • WWJS – “I can guarantee that your child will not be abducted. There is as much a possibility of that happening as there is that porcupine will bite you in the ass while you going number two behind a tree in the Amazon jungle.”
  • As you enter an elevator and the doors close you sense – “This is my coffin…first the air will run out and while I’m in agony gasping for the last bits of air, the thin cord that’s holding this box will snap and I’ll plunge to my death as we descend to the depths of hell.”
  • WWJS – “Don’t worry, that’s never going to happen, you’ll probably just get stuck between floors for days and starve to death…HAHA…just kidding! The chances of anything bad happening to you in an elevator are equal to the chances that Godzilla will knock on your door dressed as a Girl Scout selling cookies, lure his way into your home, then eat your whole family.”
  • You hear about a high school shooting and say – “My child’s high school should install metal detectors, frisk each child as they enter and hire armed security guards to patrol the school.”
  • WWJS – “Fear not for I have come with great statistics of comfort and joy. Your child has a better chance of being voted Prom Queen, Miss America and American Idol winner, all on the same day, than of being caught in a school shooing crossfire.
  • Your neighbor has a co-worker whose cousin’s friend was mugged in New York City in the early 80′s and you conclude – “I haven’t been to a big city since my grade school field trip in 1976 and I will never go because I could be robbed…or worse.”
  • WWJS – “It’s prudent to take common-sense precautions but you don’t have anything to fear. It’s more likely that you will sit next to the Pope on the subway and he’ll say, “nice day isn’t it” and you’ll say, “yeah”, than it is that you’ll get mugged in the big city.

To be clear, I’m not mocking John Stossel by making these humorous, hopefully, comments. I am a big fan of his and I love his shows. I think that knowing the odds against something happening will help many people change their irrational fears, worries and concerns. However I also think that most people who have these thoughts know deep down that they’re irrational but they can’t help but have them. So, in addition to understanding the statistics, people with these types of worries should contemplate how we are guided and supported by the same Divinity that sustains the whole universe. What will be will be. Let go and let God’s grace comfort you. Peace.

Christianity and Taoism: The Similarities

Yesterday’s (3/6/07) Catholic Gospel reading is just eight lines from Luke (9:28-36) where Jesus is talking to Moses and Elijah and a voice from a cloud says to the disciples, “This is my chosen Son; listen to him.” It seems like this is supposed to be a “passing of the baton” from the early prophets to Jesus. I think the voice from the cloud is an affirmation and reminder that we are suppose to listen too and follow our Divine self.

I found the passages immediately before and after the reading more interesting as they echo teachings of the Taoist monk Lao Tsu some 500 years before Jesus. They are those seemingly
paradoxical statements that usually confuse people rather that enlighten. From Luke 9:24 and from Luke 9:48 we get:

“For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.”

“For the one who is least among all of you is the one who is the greatest.”

From the Tao te Ching Chapters 22 and 7, respectively:

If you want to become full, let yourself be empty.
If you want to be reborn, let yourself die.
If you want to be given everything, give everything up.

The Master stays behind; that is why she is ahead.
She is detached from all things; that is why she is one with them.
Because she has let go of herself, she is perfectly fulfilled.

The parallel nature of these passages indicates that these are timeless spiritual truths that are not the exclusive domain of any specific religion. What does “whoever loses his life will save it” mean? It means that you have to let go of the dominance the lower self (i.e. the ego) and allow the Divine self within you to lead. The lower self is self-centered and attached to social status, appearances, power, prestige, emotions and money. The Divine self is other-centered and may have these things but is not attached to them.

Similarly the passage “the one who is least is the greatest” means that when you “let go” of the ego it seems like you’re lessening your influence (i.e. being least) however you are actually increasing it if you allow the Higher Self to control.

The following are the full passages from Luke Chapter 9:

18 Once when Jesus was praying in solitude, and the disciples were with him, he asked them, “Who do the crowds say that I am?”
19 They said in reply, “John the Baptist; others, Elijah; still others, ‘One of the ancient prophets has arisen.’”
20 Then he said to them, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter said in reply, “The Messiah of God.”
21 He rebuked them and directed them not to tell this to anyone.
22 He said, “The Son of Man must suffer greatly and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes, and be killed and on the third day be raised.”
23 Then he said to all, “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.
24 For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.
25 What profit is there for one to gain the whole world yet lose or forfeit himself?
26 Whoever is ashamed of me and of my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.
27 Truly I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death until they see the kingdom of God.”

28 About eight days after he said this, he took Peter, John, and James and went up the mountain to pray.
29 While he was praying his face changed in appearance and his clothing became dazzling white.
30 And behold, two men were conversing with him, Moses and Elijah,
31 who appeared in glory and spoke of his exodus that he was going to accomplish in Jerusalem.
32 Peter and his companions had been overcome by sleep, but becoming fully awake, they saw his glory and the two men standing with him.
33 As they were about to part from him, Peter said to Jesus, “Master, it is good that we are here; let us make three tents, one for you, one for Moses, and one for Elijah.” But he did not know what he was saying.
34 While he was still speaking, a cloud came and cast a shadow over them, and they became frightened when they entered the cloud.
35 Then from the cloud came a voice that said, “This is my chosen Son; listen to him.”
36 After the voice had spoken, Jesus was found alone. They fell silent and did not at that time tell anyone what they had seen.

37 On the next day, when they came down from the mountain, a large crowd met him.
38 There was a man in the crowd who cried out, “Teacher, I beg you, look at my son; he is my only child.
39 For a spirit seizes him and he suddenly screams and it convulses him until he foams at the mouth; it releases him only with difficulty, wearing him out.
40 I begged your disciples to cast it out but they could not.”
41 Jesus said in reply, “O faithless and perverse generation, how long will I be with you and endure you? Bring your son here.”
42 As he was coming forward, the demon threw him to the ground in a convulsion; but Jesus rebuked the unclean spirit, healed the boy, and returned him to his father.
43 And all were astonished by the majesty of God. While they were all amazed at his every deed, he said to his disciples,
44 “Pay attention to what I am telling you. The Son of Man is to be handed over to men.”
45 But they did not understand this saying; its meaning was hidden from them so that they should not understand it, and they were afraid to ask him about this saying.

46 An argument arose among the disciples about which of them was the greatest.
47 Jesus realized the intention of their hearts and took a child and placed it by his side
48 and said to them, “Whoever receives this child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me receives the one who sent me. For the one who is least among all of you is the one who is the greatest.”
49 Then John said in reply, “Master, we saw someone casting out demons in your name and we tried to prevent him because he does not follow in our company.”
50 Jesus said to him, “Do not prevent him, for whoever is not against you is for you.”

Cheers,
Brendan

The Ultimate Spiritual Hang-Up

Why does God allow evil, suffering, tragedy and other assorted bad things happen to good people? According to the Centers for Disease Control, during 2002, there were approximately; 28,000 infants deaths, 17,000 homicides and 100,000 accidental deaths. Officially, 2,986 innocent people were killed by terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001. If you’ve allowed your spiritual growth to be hampered or stopped because you can’t reconcile the question of how an all-loving, all-knowing, all-powerful God can permit these to happen, then you’re suffering from what I call the ultimate spiritual hang-up.

Hung-Up

What’s a spiritual hang-up? Well, first, in general, a hang-up is something that keeps you stuck and prevents further progress. Examples of physical objects that get hung-up include a record that skips (remember LP’s?), computers that “freeze up” and a car that won’t “turn over”. A spiritual hang-up is an attitude, belief or thought than hinders your spiritual development. For example, you may believe that that there are stupid, negative and evil ideas in some of the world’s Holy Books. You might feel that there are stupid, negative and evil people who are, or were, leaders of the world’s major religions. You might think that religions are useless because the people who go to Church, synagogue, mosque, etc. are the very same people who do bad things in the world. These spiritual hang-ups may thwart your spirituality; however, they may be overcome or at least put aside as you also recognize that there are loving, positive and healing messages in the Holy Books, there are may religious leaders, past and present, who have done constructive things in the world and many worshippers have become better people by attending services.

The Ultimate

This “how-can-God-allow” question is the ultimate spiritual hang-up because, with it, you have a greater chance of completely closing off the source – God – and the resulting idea of the inner divinity that’s within you (that is you). The confusion over this question can totally block off any further evidence and understanding of a loving God. It locks you into limited, concrete thinking when the idea and concept of God requires broader, abstract thinking. The limiting line of reasoning goes like this; God is suppose to be omniscient, omnipotent and loving however terrible things happen to innocent people, therefore God must be “allowing” it otherwise He/She/It would use Their power to stop it, since it’s not stopped He/She/It must not care or doesn’t exist, either way, all praying, worshiping and believing is worthless so I’m not going to bother.

Types of Tragedy

To answer the question “how can God permit (fill in the blank)?”, we have to start by recognizing three types of tragedy; man made, mysterious, and innocent bystander.

  1. Man-made tragedies are when a person or a group hurts, kills, steals, rapes another person or group.
  2. Mysterious tragedies are those that seem to have no explanation or cause and effect completely innocent people. Examples of this include infant death, disease and handicap and the sudden illness or death of a relatively young person.
  3. The innocent bystander tragedy includes the illness or death of innocent people during war, climatic events (e.g. earthquakes, floods, hurricanes, etc.) and major catastrophes (e.g. Titanic, Hindenburg).

How Can God Allow Pain, Tragedy, Suffering and Evil?

With this background we can now address the specific question of “how can God let these tragedies happen?” First, God “allows” the man-made tragedies to occur because they are built into the fundamental structure of how we are created and put on this earth and they are one of the main methods used to increase our understanding of life. To fully explain this, permit me to give a quick meaning-of-life summary. We have two selves; a divine self and a human self. The divine self is abstract, impersonal and detached. The human self is concrete, self-centered and attached. The divine self is following the command of God to redeem the physical, emotional and mental planes of the world. It does this by investing itself in this very material and thereby incarnating in the earth plane. The issue is that this physical, emotional and mental material has a life of its own and it, rightly so, seeks greater comfort, security, pleasure and self-preservation, while avoiding pain, and all with the least possible effort. The divine self works gently “behind the scenes” working to raise and refine the quality of the material it is incarnated in so that eventually the human self is responsive to the divine self. The divine self intends to express its divinity, namely, love, joy, peace, wisdom, compassion, goodwill and vitality, through the human self and thereby redeem the world and fulfill God’s plan.

When a person or a group hurts, kills, steals, rapes another person or group the lower, human self of the aggressor has a very limited view of life and is simply looking for greater comfort, security, pleasure and self-preservation, while avoiding pain. From simple muggings and assaults to the extreme acts of Hitler and Osama bin Laden, all aggressors are acting in their own interests and desires however misguided and ignorant. The divine self of each aggressor has not been able to turn the lower self around to see life from a broader perspective. However the divine self retains the lessons learned during an incarnation and applies them to the next incarnation thereby increasing its ability to take command of the human self. This spiritual evolution is all a part of God’s unfolding plan and these man-made tragedies are to be seen in a wider perspective and are not to be taken personally.

Next, God allows the mysterious tragedies, however difficult to endure, because they are also opportunities for a greater understanding of life but they also have a better ability to facilitate the greater expression of a particular aspect of divinity. For example, being born or becoming blind, deaf, handicapped, or deformed are heightened opportunities to perfect the expression of strength, courage, endurance, perseverance and optimism (did you know Helen Keller wrote a book title Optimism?). Similarly, pre-mature diseases help to increase these and other divine ideals and they also help us realize mistakes in our self-expression. This later point is explained by Edward Bach, the creator of the Bach Flower Remedies, in his 1931 book “Heal Thyself – An Explanation of the Real Cause and Cure of Disease”;

“Disease is in itself beneficent, and has for its object the bringing back of the personality to the Divine will of the Soul; and thus we can see that it is both preventable and avoidable, since if we could only realize for ourselves the mistakes we are making and correct these by spiritual means there could be no need for the severe lessons of suffering. Every opportunity is given us by the Divine Power to mend our ways before, as a last resort, pain and suffering have to be applied. It may not be the errors of this life, this day at school, which we are combating; and although we in our physical minds may not be conscious of the reasons of our suffering, which may to us appear cruel and without reason, yet our Souls (which are ourselves) know the full purpose and are guiding us to our best advantage. Nevertheless, understanding and correction of our errors would shorten our illness and bring us back to health. Knowledge of the Soul’s purpose and acquiescence in that knowledge means the relief of earthly suffering and distress, and leaves us free to develop our evolution in joy and happiness.”

Finally, God allows the innocent bystander tragedies because they are part of the larger growth and development of humanity. This type of tragedy differs from the two above in that the victim does not go through any obvious period of growth and learning. However it’s important to remember that the body of humanity is also working on increasing its ability to express divinity. Wars, climatic events and other catastrophes are opportunities for humanity to correct its mistakes and express greater love, compassion, peace, wisdom, forgiveness and tolerance. The individual victims of these events who either die or are injured play a heroic part in the unfolding of the divine within mankind.

Conclusion

God allows pain, suffering, tragedy and evil simply because it’s a part of His Divine Plan for increasing divinity and thereby redeeming and refining this world. To understand this Plan, we need increase our wisdom and understand and place all tragedy into a larger perspective. Tragedies need to be recognized as opportunities for growth.

A critic may say that I’ve just gone through a worthless, long exercise since I’ve only managed to give God all the credit for the good events of life and no blame for the bad. I would respond with a brief passage from Alexander Pope’s poem “An Essay on Man”,

All Nature is but Art, unknown to thee;

All Chance, Direction, which thou canst not see;

All Discord, Harmony not understood;

All partial Evil, universal Good:

And, spite of Pride, in erring Reason’s spite,

One truth is clear, Whatever is, is Right.

Carnival of Healing #34: Health and Spirituality with a Touch of Spring Fever

Welcome to the 34th edition of the Carnival of Healing! This Carnival is a weekly round-up of blogs and articles across the Internet that focus on holistic health, wellness, self-empowerment, and spirituality. I am very glad to be hosting this week and I’ve enjoyed being the one with a “sneak peek” into what’s going to be in the Carnival. The Carnival’s “home-base” is found at About.com’s (a part of the New York Times Company) Holistic Healing site run by Phylameana lila Desy (thanks for everything Phyl!). Now, let’s get on with the show.

Deepak Chopra, M.D., the well-known spiritual teacher, best-selling author, and medical doctor, offers a health post and spirituality post this week through Intentblog. In “Why People Get Sick”, Dr. Chopra addresses the intriguing question of why does some of us get sick when others, exposed to the same conditions, don’t. We tend to assume that medical science has it all figured out and, as they’ve explained to us, if we just diligently avoid germs, we won’t get sick. It doesn’t work like that and other factors, namely stress and spiritual health, are the true keys to health.

In “Does God Have a Future” (the first of a three-part series), Deepak Chopra addresses the growth and problems of religious fundamentalism. What’s the basic problem? It’s the inability to reconcile the seeming differences between reason and faith. Deepak suggests that, “people have to find their way back to spirituality one person at a time” and, I would suggest, regular Carnival of Healing readers and hosts seem to be doing just that. I can attest to this individual search for spiritual understanding as nearly everyday someone types in Google something like “bible, literal, figurative” and comes to my article Bible: Literal or Figurative?

From one spiritual teacher to another…Carl Japikse has been teaching about spiritual growth, meditation, creativity, and the development of the mind for over 30 years. As part of Light and Ariel Press, he has written numerous books including “Active Meditation”, “Forces of the Zodiac” ( both co-authored by Robert R. Leichtman, M.D.) and “Exploring the Tarot”. Carl writes an Internet column called Above the Mean twice a week. In his recent article, “Half & Half”, Carl welcomes us into spring and Aries with an invigorating dose of the-glass-is-half-filled optimism. With all of the seeming problems of the world it’s easy for some to succumb to pessimism. What’s the problem with pessimism? As Carl so eloquently writes, “Pessimism is a parasite that lodges in the value system of the person who entertains it, and slowly feeds on his or her thinking capacity, until it is fully destroyed.” Carl leaves us with an optimistic spring fever from William Shakespeare, Robert Frost and Helen Keller and he implores us to “let the seeds of optimism take root in our mind.” (Note, Above the Mean is a subscription-based column and “Half & Half” is a free sample. I am an extremely satisfied subscriber and I highly recommend it but I do not benefit or profit from new subscribers and I am not affiliated with the publisher.)

In his Parapsychology articles and blog, Jacob encourages us to believe, through his article “Belief levels and the path of a healer”. Can a healer heal you? Can you be a healer? Are psychic phenomena true? The answer is NO…if you don’t at least believe in the possibility. When you do, as Jacob says, “almost anything is possible, be it your health, your career or your new abilities.”

In, “Time for Letting Go…”, Jodie Foster, an Intuitive Counselor & Consultant, explains the Art of Surrender, which is to let go of any preconceived outcomes and to trust that what we create will blossom as it’s suppose to. In her article she uses a phrase that rings true; Divine Right Timing. Jodie is referring to surrendering to the fruits of our labor but I think she is also suggesting we surrender during the process of creation. All of us bloggers can relate to this letting go or surrender when we write. I find that the words come easiest when I’m not trying too hard and I “let go” of trying to be perfect.

No Carnival of Healing is complete without a nutritional health article or two. In “The Two Sides of Malnourishment” we learn that malnourishment, typically thought to represent people who are too thin, can, paradoxically, also represent people who are obese. How? Poor food choices. People can be overweight and malnourished because the cheapest and most pleasure-packed foods are basically varying forms of packaged fat and sugar with little to no nutritional value. This article goes on to explain the differences between good and bad fats. In “Don’t Take This with a Grain of Salt” we learn that most of us are significantly exceeding the levels of sodium we need and that there are excessive amounts of sodium in many foods. It concludes with links to other sites for more information on recommended sodium levels.

Finally, yours truly, has completed a seven-part series of articles (most are short) addressing another person’s deep and personal question, “What the Hell is the Meaning of Life?” The series’ topics include money, work, prestige, relationships, meritocracy and religious faith. The first entry is called What’s the Meaning of Life? A Response, Part 1. Please feel free to look around and let me know what you think.

The 33th edition of the Carnival was hosted at Holistic Healing.

Next week (Saturday, April 1st) the Carnival will be held at Intuitive Living.

Attention Bloggers: We are interested in your healing, spirituality, personal empowerment blog posts for future carnival attractions. Submit your healing blog posts at the Carnival of Healing.

Carnival of Healing

I will be hosting the 34th Carnival of Healing, this Saturday, March 25, 2006. The Carnival of Healing is a weekly round-up of personal Web sites and blogs on the topics of holistic health, wellness, spirituality, and self empowerment. Please spread the word and/or send in your posts!

Just a sample of some of the past contributors/hosts include:

Phylameana lila Désy – Waiting for the Fog to Clear

Evelyn Rodriguez – So What Now: Responding to Our Calling

Lucy MacDonald – Five things you should know about forgiveness

Steve Pavlina – My Favorite Meditation

Elisa Camahort – Listening to your body?

Jodie Foster – A Return to Joy

Christopher Stewart – Healing the Person, Place and Planet

You are welcome to submit anything you have recently written in your blog pertaining to wellness, holistic health, spirituality, personal empowerment, or healthy lifestyle.

To Be Included in the Carnival use this link: Submit your URL and description of your blog or personal Web site.

What's the Meaning of Life? A Response, Part 7

Marty Nemko, a career coach, author and radio talk-show host in the San Francisco area, who has very practical career and educational advice that I highly recommend, wrote a very personal article titled “What the Hell is the Meaning of Life”. This article is the conclusion (here is the first) of a seven part series in response to Marty’s question.

Marty wrote,

“Here’s my current thinking, highly subject to revision. It comes down to being nice to everyone possible: look for opportunities to give heartfelt praise, a kind letter to a long-long friend, an unnecessary gift, etc. Don’t expect anything in return–you too often won’t get it. Take pleasure in the giving itself. That approach to life will ensure you do some good, it doesn’t require Herculean effort, and you will feel good no matter how other people respond.”

Your “current thinking” about being nice and giving praise is good advice however when you say “don’t expect anything in return – you too often won’t get it”, you sound a bit defeatist. As you say, be nice, kind and express goodwill however also remember to be optimistic, enthusiastic and always focus one the best within others. Don’t despair if they don’t respond ideally.

Finally, you ask, “how do you wring the most from life?” Broaden your perspective. You are more than what you think you are. Working with life from a higher, spiritual perspective, as discussed in Part 1, is the only true satisfaction you can have. It’s what lasts. The potential for this exists for all of us regardless of our wealth, prestige, gender, race or health. After all the sun shines for everyone, right?

I want to give Marty the “last word” on the question of the meaning of life and I recently visited his website and found this recent entry on his blog which mirrors some of my comments in my article The Meaning of Life: Rise and Shine (which he hadn’t read before he wrote the following), and, along with all of what Marty writes is solid, sound advice. Marty wrote,

“Today, my client, Evan Wright, asked me, “How do you get so much done?” Here’s what I said: It starts with the spiritual. The meaning of life to me is defined primarily by how much I contribute to the world. If I act merely to give myself pleasure, my life has made little difference. So, I rarely procrastinate; work is not only what I should do, but want to do.”

What's the Meaning of Life? A Response, Part 6

Marty Nemko, a career coach, author and radio talk-show host in the San Francisco area, who has very practical career and educational advice that I highly recommend, wrote a very personal article titled “What the Hell is the Meaning of Life”. This article is the sixth (here is the first) of a seven part series in response to Marty’s question. In this article I’ll address relationships from a spiritual perspective.

Marty wrote,

“Many people find the meaning of life through relationships. While I have a decent marriage, I’m not sure the meaning of life, at least for me, fully resides there. And my only child, who is an ardent employee of The Diversity Industry, refuses to talk to me, in large measure because of my views on reverse discrimination. So, I won’t, as so many parents do, find life’s meaning through his children.”

Relationships, like work, are another prime way for us to express our inner divinity and are therefore a major part of the meaning of life. From a limited perspective, relationships are seen as self-serving leading one to ask, “what am I getting out of this relationship?”, “how is it benefiting me?”. Further these people feel that if they are not “getting anything” out of the relationship that it’s always the other person’s fault due to what they are or aren’t doing. From a broader perspective, relationships are opportunities for us to be “other focused”. They are ways for us to contribute to each other’s growth and express peace, goodwill, love and wisdom. Each of us are part of the body of humanity and we are all connected at the spiritual level. We should identifying with this connection and treat other with the respect and compassion due children of God.

When relationships hit a “rocky road”, a higher perspective is truly needed. For example, regarding your specific issue with your daughter, if your problem really is about your views on reverse discrimination I would suggest that you ease up on this issue with her. Assuming you’re right, and I think you are as discussed in Part 5, look at this from a higher perspective and realize that it will all work out in the end. It’s all a part of a divine plan that will work out as it always has and always will. Whatever is, is right. I’m not suggesting that you stop trying to correct this “diversity problem” through your work, I’m just suggesting that you don’t have to convert your daughter or anyone of your personal relationships. But if you’re already following this advise, you’re not trying to convert her, and she’s putting up the resistance because you address this issue in your work, realize that she’s an adult who’s learning and growing. As much as you may want to simply impart your wisdom on her to ease her path through life, the enlightened approach is to allow her to realize lessons on her own. These are the types of lessons that last and deeply enrich a person. Finally, if you can’t reconcile, know that there’s no spiritual requirement that a parent-child relationship stay intact physically, but the emotional, mental and spiritual bonds can never be broken.

Next is the issue of religious faith but more particularly the question of how can an all-powerful, all-loving , all-knowing God allow evil and all the tragedies of our lives to occur? Marty wrote,

“Many other people find the meaning of life in religious faith. But I can’t find meaning in a God that would, for example, allow thousands of babies to be born every year with horrifically painful diseases and then die months later leaving bereft parents.”

This is what I call the “Ultimate Spiritual Hang Up” and it’s so common a belief that I’ve addressed it more thoroughly in a separate article called, The Ultimate Spiritual Hang Up”.

Next time – the conclusion to Marty’s question “What the hell’s the meaning of life?”